When You Feel Like You "Should" Be Farther Along and the Tests Keep Coming
- Erin J.
- Apr 26, 2024
- 2 min read
I was chatting with someone the other day who was having a hard time because he felt like he was doing all the work, doing everything right, and just knows he’s meant for so much more, but was really struggling internally and not getting the results he wanted. SO many great nuggets came out of that conversation that are such great reminders for when we’re working on ourselves or experiencing some inner conflict, and I wanted to share them in case you’re experiencing some of these things.
Here are 3 tips for when you feel you should be happier, should be farther along, or feel like you’re doing everything right but nothing’s changing. Bonus tip, go check out my “shoulds” video on Instagram!
It’s definitely important to have a vision, goals, and ideal outcome in mind. But clinging to things looking a certain way or happening on a certain timeline is setting you up for disappointment. We don’t always know what’s best for us or all the possible outcomes, so the best we can do is just stay focused on keeping the momentum going and doing the work, and be open to creative solutions. Be open to things unfolding even better than you imagined or in a way you never thought of. Definitely expect good things and expect better for yourself, but release what you can’t control.
Some of the biggest breakthroughs follow some of the biggest tests. I know that doesn’t really make you want to look forward to breakthroughs, but if you’re in the midst of a big test, have hope! It could be a test of how serious and committed you are to the change or growth, or an opportunity to really practice embodying a new belief or practice, or simply a test of patience (when my coach tells me to be patient I want to scream, but she’s so right!). Don’t quit now!
Growth is uncomfortable! But so is staying the same, settling for mediocrity, or leaving your dreams on the back burner. The growth discomfort won’t last, and you’ve made it through SO many moments like this so far in your life, maybe without even realizing it sometimes! Getting out of your comfort zone, choosing to grow, and choosing yourself will always yield amazing results!
I hope this helps.
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