A Celebration of Life: A Great Reminder of the Importance of Living a Fully Authentic Life

This weekend I attended a celebration of life and it was such a beautiful reminder of why I do what I do, the impact I want to make, and these important takeaways that I wanted to share:

It’s so natural to spend SO much time worrying about what other people think of you, doing things perfectly, comparing ourselves to others, and seeking external approval and validation.  I talk about this a lot because it is SUCH a waste of time and energy and distracts us from living a fully authentic, fulfilling life!  And I’ve been there and know how HARD it is to ACT and hide our truest selves, so know that I see you and know the challenge! 

But this weekend was an amazing reminder that when we leave this world, people don’t talk about all the things they judged about you, the things they didn’t approve of, or whether you fit perfectly into a box like 1000 other people.  They talk about what made you special and unique, how much you LIVED, the things that lit you up, and what they loved about you – the REAL you!  None of that other shit matters! 

What if, despite your fear, you chose to take full responsibility for your life, and to be as YOU as you could possibly be?  How would your life change?  What’s really the worst thing that could happen?  If you really sit with your fears for a moment and get really curious about understanding WHY you’re afraid to either fully be yourself or about what others think, you might be surprised by what you find.  We make up all kinds of scenarios in our heads and worry about things that we haven’t actually fully thought through, or we carry around fears and worries from our childhood or from things other people have told us we should worry about, and when you actually dissect them and see what they’re all about, so often you’ll find at least a few things you can let go of.  So much energy is spent holding ourselves back – it’s such a shame.  If this feels all too familiar, I want to invite you to really really think about, and FEEL about, why you feel the need to hide, to pretend, to seek validation, or whatever it is that applies most to you.  Don’t beat yourself up, but really try to understand.  Does it serve you?  How is it limiting you?  Are you ok with the answers?

I’ve always had this “life is short” mentality – not in a morbid way, but in an I-don’t-want-to-waste-time-on-stupid-shit way, and hearing all the beautiful things people said about my friend’s passing completely reinforced this. 

We don’t have a ton of time and no one is going to care about all the things you did imperfectly, all the times you failed or got rejected, all the times you embarrassed or reinvented yourself.  You have one shot at this life – do you want to waste it trying to not be disruptive, to not be visible, to fit in, be popular, get fake approval, or do you want to be weird, to thrive, and enjoy the hell out of your life as the unique magical being that you are?

I choose the latter, and if you do too, I’d love to support you in that.  Reach out if you’re interested in coaching!

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