Anyone you lose by bettering yourself doesn't deserve to be in your life.

Are you worried that if you work on improving your life in some way, you'll lose friends or loved ones? If so, this is for YOU.

A very common, very normal concern I see is a fear of losing people when starting to do personal development work.  This is such a valid concern, and here’s how I address it.  Yes, you sometimes do lose people when you start to change.  BUT, as hard as it may be to accept, anyone you lose by bettering yourself, does not deserve to be in your life!  And if you bail on someone else for bettering themselves, they don’t deserve you in their life either!

Rather than viewing this as a loss or something to avoid, what if you chose to believe that everyone comes into your life for a time?  Some for a long time.  Some for a short time.  And those who are meant to stay with you on your journey, the whole journey, will, no matter what.  And sometimes others are only in alignment with certain versions of you, and you with them, and when no longer in alignment, it’s just time to part ways. 

I see this as a huge area that prevents people from changing “too much”, and if this is an area where you get hung up, I want to ask you to ask yourself three things:

1. Why am I trying to control who comes and goes from my life?

2. Why would I put my life on hold for someone unwilling to come along for the ride?

3. What’s the worst that could happen if I lost some people who I love dearly but just aren’t along for THIS part of the ride (unable to support me, don’t get it, don’t want to improve themselves as well), but gained a new group of people who align with the version of myself that I’m becoming?
   

I’ve lost a lot of people – family and friends.  When I gave up alcohol, when I took some bold risks that I was passionate about, and unexpectedly when making smaller shifts in my life.  But I realized it really was for the best as most of them weren’t supportive of where I was going, and I don’t want people like that in my life. And by letting them go, I created space to allow in a new bunch of lovely, amazing people who support and love me for the weirdo that I am today.  So. Worth. It. 

So if it comes down to holding onto people or working on you for you, ask yourself which propels you forward and which keeps you stuck.  Ideally, you can have both, but realistically, that might not always be the case.

If you're feeling stuck here and need some help with acceptance, letting go, or anything else, reach out for a consult.

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